Healing Shame Directory Of Certified Practitioners
Disclaimer: This professional directory can help you locate a Healing Shame Practitioner. We cannot make assurances that any individual would be suitable for the needs of a particular individual. A listing in this directory does not constitute an endorsement of any particular person. It reflects their completion of a training program in Healing Shame - Lyon/Rubin Method. Therefore, we cannot be held responsible for the actions and abilities of any person listed here. Nor are we claiming or guaranteeing the credentials listed here, other than that the Practitioner has completed a full training program in Healing Shame with Bret Lyon and Sheila Rubin or has the equivalent experience. Not all of those listed are licensed mental health professionals. Practitioners have listed their credentials, including licensure, in their individual listings at their sole responsibility and we are not in any way guaranteeing their accuracy. Users of this directory understand and agree that the Healing Shame program is neither liable nor responsible for any actions of those using or choosing to list in this directory.
CALIFORNIA – San Francisco Bay Area
(Oakland, Berkeley, Livermore, Walnut creek)
Amanda Dluzak, IMF
3637 Grand Avenue, Suite B
Oakland, CA 94610
Supervised by Craig Toonder, MFC 42605
2500 Old Crow Canyon Road
San Ramon, CA 94583
Supervised by Katrinca Ford, MFC 45032
Phone: (510) 788-0424
When shame shows up in therapy, it can become an invisible obstacle to getting better. This is especially true when working with women who have experienced pregnancy loss, miscarriage, still birth, neonatal death, and abortion. Compassionately addressing shame around the body's fertility capacities, our body's appearance, or even our success at being a woman, can help bring your full experience into the room to be healed so that you can move forward with the new normal.
I love companioning women through perinatal bereavement in coming home again to their bodies. Transforming the shame around your loss honors both you as a mother and the little one who went away so soon. Most of all, I want women who are grieving a loss like this to know that you are not alone, you are not to blame, and with help you will find hope again.
What would your life be like without shame? As a Certified Healing Shame Practitioner, I believe a richer, more satisfying and shame-free life is within reach of us all.
In addition to my advanced training in Healing Shame: Lyon/Rubin Method, I utilize EMDR, Mindfulness and Relational Gestalt Therapy to help individuals achieve their treatment goals. I am also a passionate believer in the power of group therapy. My group—Healing Shame for Women—is designed to be especially helpful for women who struggle with feeling loved or lovable, women whose access to feelings (especially grief or anger) is frozen, long-term recovering individuals, and/or adult children of families with addiction or mental illness.
For more information about me, my practice, or my Healing Shame for Women group, please call me at 510-418-2387 or check out my website: EastBayHolisticTherapy.com
Masako Guthrie, LMFT, SEP
Phone: (510) 665-4118
Fax: (510) 548-4119
We all have the ability to heal ourselves. This is my deep belief and the foundation of my psychotherapy practice. Working together with my clients in the here and now, I provide a safe place to gain insight, understanding, and concrete tools to enable positive change. I use methods suited to the individual needs of each client so that a holistic experience of cognitive understanding, emotional expression, and somatic (body) awareness is possible. My training includes Healing Shame, Recreation of Self, Hakomi Mind/Body Psychotherapy, Energy Psychology (EFT and Jin Shin), and EMDR. I am a certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for trauma resolution. My clients include individuals, trauma survivors and people with cross-cultural and immigrant issues.
You can find out more information about me at my website: www.masakotherapy.com and on the registry for practitioners at www.traumahealing.com
Joy Metoyer, LCSW
Oakland & Livermore, CA
Phone: (925) 784-3313
I am an African American therapist committed to working with a very diverse population of clients, individually and as couples. My training as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, my work, and my own experience have all taught me that in addition to individual and familial factors that engender shame, toxic shame is often historically embedded in the social structures that perpetuate it. I want to work with people to help them change the historical and personal legacies that leave them feeling that they cannot succeed, inhibiting self-realization and self-actualization. When we are embedded in shame we are often unable to make therapeutic progress. Working directly with shame helps us to get unstuck. As an interactive attachment based therapist, with training in EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy for individuals and couples) I work to strike a balance between empowering people to make necessary changes in their lives, and helping them to develop coping strategies to manage circumstances that cannot be changed. I have particular interests in human diversity, racial identity, gender issues and alternative lifestyles.
Rebecca Olmsted, MA, LMFT
5845 College Ave.
Oakland, CA 94618
Phone: (510) 863-4795
I've been in practice since 2008. Learning to work with shame has been an ah-ha experience for me, deepening my practice. I have found that shame is often is the missing, unnamed thing that holds people back. Naming it in treatment can free up the therapeutic process. As if you could say to yourself "So that's it! I've been feeling that a long time." The thing that's named is the thing that can be healed.
I specialize in working with adults who have ADHD. Shame is a major factor in ADHD, as well as the feeling of being misunderstood. People with ADHD have received many messages about their faultiness, been labeled underachievers, uncooperative, inattentive, disorganized. A very common consequence of ADHD is discouragement—the person feels condemned to a life of not getting what they seek. All this can result in a big messy ball of shame. That's the bad news. The good news is that you can do something about it. For an expanded discussion of this topic please see my article "Stepping into the Shame Zone with ADHD."
I use a blend of modalities to work with my clients: Focusing, EMDR, Hakomi. But mostly, I just try to listen and to be present.
On the path to real change, our separate parts need to be known, accepted and then brought together, towards an integrated new life. When I reach a blockage in my work with clients, it is often shame barring the door to change. The client’s shame or my own shame equally lead to stuckness. My training with Healing Shame opened for me deep realizations and new paths for working with clients.
I work with adults, individuals and couples. The therapy often relates to life transitions, spiritual confusion, depression, anxiety and career changes. I work relationally and experientially, from a transpersonal perspective. I use Presence Therapy that includes focusing, trance work, story-telling, non-violent communication, dream-work, voice dialogue and when applicable, cognitive interventions.
Sometimes we're so used to the feeling of shame that we can't even see it until it's been released or let go. Feeling stuck in shame or carrying the weight of it around with you for years, if not decades, may make you feel like there's no way out. I know from personal experience, as well as witnessing my clients' experiences, that there is a way out; there are other ways to live; and shame can be let go or even transformed into something useful. Through gentle exploration, the use of guided imagery and the client's own strengths, healing shame is a collaborative process between myself and my clients. It fits in seamlessly with my usual techniques: EMDR, mindfulness, and working with clients' inner children. I work with individual adult clients and would be happy to explore the possibility of us working together to help you get unstuck, let go of the burdens that have been put on you from surviving trauma, childhood abuse, family secrets, or even frequent moves as a child. Although shame is a universal feeling, it can also feel isolating and lonely. You don't have to do this alone.
Ellen Walters, MFT
Phone: (925) 212-4994
In working with individuals and couples, with and without ADHD, blaming and shaming are so often present. Frequently these are automatic strategies inherent in many of us, well learned from experiences and beliefs from our younger years. Since opening my practice in 2000, my professional education has included Non-Violent Communication, EMDR, Collaborative Couples Therapy, and extensive trainings in working with adults with ADHD. My work with Bret and Sheila in their Shame Workshops has deepened my understanding of shame's role and impact on individuals and their relationships, as it confounds and stymies needs for emotional and intimate connection. If you'd like to know more about my work, please find me at ellenwaltersmft.com.
(San Rafael, Santa Rosa, Sebastopol)
Anna Billings, LMFT
610 D Street, Suite A
San Rafael, CA 94901
125 West Richmond Avenue
Point Richmond, CA 94801
The understanding and modalities of healing shame that I’ve learned through Bret and Sheila’s work has fueled my longtime passion for uncovering and bringing forth the brilliance of who you are as a unique and worthy individual. When the cloak of shame has been lifted from your inner experience of yourself, that brilliance is finally freed, bringing the joy, expression and fulfillment that is your birthright.
I’m a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice for nearly forty years. My specialties include relationship issues, self-esteem, creativity, healing from loss and grief, life transitions, and trauma recovery. My training includes EMDR (for trauma recovery, overcoming action blocks and increasing self confidence), Inner Relationship Focusing, Wilderness Retreats, Equine Facilitated Therapy, Action Theater Improvisation, Point Zero Painting, Life Coaching and Leadership Development. I work with couples, families and individuals. I welcome your inquiries.
I have been transformed both as a person and as a therapist, now that I have integrated the tools that Bret and Sheila provide in their Healing Shame Certification. While shame was the perfect tool for surviving difficult and challenging childhoods, it can become a toxic barrier that prevents us from living the full and complete lives we all deserve. Taking steps to seek help with how shame may be getting in your way is such a brave action forward and one that I deeply respect. I feel truly privileged to work with individuals, couples and relationships of all types to help people heal from the past so they can manifest most completely in their present. My therapeutic style relies heavily on cultivating curiosity, calm, clarity and a sense of connectedness so that my safe presence is expressly felt and experienced by my clients. Please visit my website (www.tatradelarosa.com) to learn more about me, my history as a therapist and my approach to working with people, to see if I might be a good fit for you or your loved ones. Additionally, you may prefer to contact me directly for a free telephone consultation.
I'm a licensed therapist who knows the continuum of shame from the inside. This continuum has a healthy end, helping our caregivers teach us boundaries, appropriate behavior, and respectful relationships with others. But when there is neglect or abuse, if there are substance problems, mental illness, or physical or emotional violence in the home, then children can move along the continuum of shame towards the far end, where toxic shame lives. Without repair and healing when shame isolates us, shame has to be in hiding in adulthood. "There is something wrong with me" can become a kind of shameful identity. My therapy work, deeply informed by Bret & Sheila's Healing Shame training, offers a genuinely kind relational bridge to heal these unbearably alone experiences. Gradually bringing shame into the light and warmth of shared caring heals the hurting heart. More at my website: drglennfrancis.com.
Elaine Sohier Gayler M.A. LMFT, SEP
7765 Healdsburg Avenue, Suite 12
Sebastopol, CA 95472
Phone: (707) 486-2947
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who works with individuals, couples, and families. I am also a Certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and a Certified Hypnotherapist. I see how profoundly shame impacts people's lives. With the tools I have learned from Bret and Sheila, I can help you to heal from toxic shame and support you in reclaiming your power and taking back your life.
In addition to Healing Shame, my other areas of specialization include: Trauma Resolution, PTSD, and Anxiety Reduction. I work with many abuse survivors. If you would like to know more about my work, I am listed on the Psychology Today website.
Gail Van Buuren, LMFT
Sebastopol, CA 95472
Phone: (707) 494-4198
Shame is like a deep shadow hiding in the psyche. We can spend years trying to work around it, pretending it isn’t there. But as long as we do that, it has power over us. It holds our secret negative beliefs and memories and hurts us with them. Since 2008, Bret and Sheila have been two of my finest teachers, especially regarding shame. I have seen time after time that shame can be dissolved, sent packing, when it is exposed to the light. In our safely held space together, whether working with a couple, an individual, children, or with an entire family, we can bring it forward and let it go, or we can figuratively give it back to whoever gave it to us. This work is tremendously freeing for your heart.
Shame is often strongly present in my work with trauma, abuse victims, couples in trouble, and loss of all kinds. Please check out my website to learn more about me or call with questions or to schedule a free half-hour consultation at my office.
San Francisco and South Bay
Andrea Flanders, LCSW #23951
45 Franklin St. #214
San Francisco, CA
Phone: (415) 294-3533
Internalized shame can be insidiously corrosive to one’s self and life energy! Even before Brene Brown’s TED talk brought popular focus to the topic, Sheila and Bret were working to bring therapists’ awareness to shame as an area needing specific attention. In my work with clients, I try to incorporate an understanding of social and developmental contexts, as well as helping clients to identify and build resources, improve affect regulation, learn reliable tools, and increase self-compassion and deep acceptance. My style is warm, collaborative, compassionate, and respectful. My work is informed by Attachment Theory (trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy with Sue Johnson), Neuroscience and Somatic Therapy (Mind/Body), Mindfulness Practices, Healing Shame, Cognitive-Behavioral Therapies, Psychodynamic, and 12-Step change processes. I work with individual adults and couples. If you have questions or would like to set up a time to meet please call or email.
Couples and individuals – Relationship with self, others and the world around us
In over 20 years of experience working with clients I have seen shame is at the root of our deepest, most intense personal pain; It breaks our sense of connection with others. I offer a process toward deep healing. It is your journey and I am honored to share in helping you heal and move toward health and a life and relationships you choose.
Deep healing can happen within our relationships with ourselves, those around us and the world we live in. Offering a gentle presence, a collaborative, respectful and compassionate process, I help you find your own answers and ask the tough questions to get you there. This is a difficult journey; you do not have to do it alone. I can sit with the unspeakable pain, witness and see you through experiencing a storm of shame and come through it to regain your light. You are welcome to view my website for more information, www.PersonalChange.org, or call or email me with questions or to find a time to meet.
CALIFORNIA – Fresno
6777 N. Willow Ave.
Fresno, CA 93710
Phone: (559) 298-7230
Although I have been an educator and Licensed Marriage Family Therapist and worked with clients for many years, I was not trained to recognize shame or help clients with this deeply painful, alienating affect until I worked with the Lyon/Rubin Healing Shame model. As a longtime client in my own psychotherapy, prior to working with Sheila Rubin and Bret Lyon, I often felt stuck, feeling alone and hopeless because I was so shame bound. I had no words for this feeling in therapy as a client. The Healing Shame model has transformed both me and my work with my clients. If you struggle with a deep beliefs that you are "bad," "defective," or "wrong," in all likelihood, shame is binding your sense of well being, vitality, self confidence and self agency. This can result in feeling depressed, anxious, or simply stuck in the past and in chronic self-attack, anger, or detachment. Using the Healing Shame model, I work slowly, establishing safety, helping you find your inner resources, and allow you to find what is profoundly precious in you as a unique human being.
I offer a free, in-office consultation to help determine if I am a good fit for you. For more information, please find me on Psychology Today for Fresno Clovis area in Central California or call me at (559) 298-7230.
I have seen the effects of the Shame issue present in my practice for many years. When Toxic Shame is internalized we lose our passion and optimism for life itself. These effects can injure our belief in ourselves and all of our relationships, especially our emotional connection with others. Each of us deserves to be free of how shame attaches itself to our true self. With compassion, empathy and the tools I have learned from Bret and Sheila I will assist you in healing and experiencing relief from Toxic Shame. You can then appreciate the power of healthy shame that nurtures and repairs your inner and intimate relationships. You can find me at kendjanzenmft.com.
CALIFORNIA – Los Angeles
Brian D. Mahan, SEP, was diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) in 2003. He suffered daily from 7 to 10 full-blown panic attacks, following a catastrophic automobile accident. After just a few sessions with a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner (SEP), he was completely symptom free. He immediately contacted The Somatic Experiencing Training Institute and committed to study the lifework of Dr. Peter A. Levine.
Brian is an educator, author and practitioner in private practice. He also holds retreats and seminars, focused on re-establishing a sense of safety and re-awakening embodiment through healing stress and trauma. His studies in Healing Shame with Bret Lyon and Sheila Rubin have informed his practice beyond measure. He is thrilled to now be assisting Bret and Sheila in their ground-breaking trainings. Brian is also an assistant trainer for The Somatic Experiencing Training Institute.
Brian offers sessions both face-to-face for local clients and by Phone, FaceTime, Google Hangouts and SKYPE for clients nationwide and internationally.
CALIFORNIA – Nevada City
I strive to nurture compassionate connection. That means acquiring and providing tools for resolving conflicts, both inner and outer, for listening and being heard, for opening hearts and minds and being more intelligent with resources. My practice includes guidance for navigating recurring obstacles, returning to balance, and maintaining a rejuvenated and integrated self. I invite inner understanding through focused listening and sensing, facilitate solutions that grow from empowered choice, and help foster win-win relationships for mutual well-being. I support clients and workshop participants in mastering their innate capacity for empathy, wisdom, and health.