The more we care about each other, the more vulnerable we are to shame. Intentionally or unintentionally, we poke each other in the tender spots. Couples can shame each other multiple times a day, often without realizing what is happening. This can become a highly reactive cycle, preventing both people from getting their basic safety and attachment needs met. And shame can distort how we hear each other; the received message may have little to do with the message the partner is attempting to send.
What’s true for couples is also true for parents and children and for close friends and business partners. The more we care about each other, the higher the stakes, the more opportunity for misattunements and shaming, intentional and unintentional. And the more love and caring can be there if the shame is healed.
In this workshop we will explore the blame/shame game people who care about each other can fall into and how to help them stop shaming each other and work together to create a secure base and heal the wounds of the past.
Look at some of the many subtle ways shame can be triggered.
Explore shaming moments with great care so we can teach our clients how to avoid shame-based reactivity.
Learn the gentle art of counter-shaming and how to avoid triggering feelings of inadequacy in yourself or in another person.
Talk about, have compassion for and heal past shaming incidents within the relationship.
Help each person to understand, have compassion, and be there for their partner—to learn to face the shame dragon together, to avoid shaming in the present and heal shame from the past.
There is no prerequisite for this course. It can be taken by itself or as part of a sequence.
ONLINE via Zoom
13 CE credits available
CAMFT Approved CE Provider #134393
Four Fridays: May 8, 15, 22 and 29
10:00AM - 1:30PM Pacific Time
Live and recorded, using the Zoom platform.
13 CE credits* (See CE info at the bottom of this page.)
CAMFT Approved CE Provider #134393
This course is for therapists and helping professionals. If you're not sure if it's the right class for you, please contact Bret Lyon at Bret@HealingShame.com. This workshop can be applied toward certification as a Healing Shame Practitioner.
$375 / $350 with full payment by April 3 (Use coupon code EARLYBIRD) Note: To receive the discounted price you must pay in full by the early bird deadline. The $100 deposit does not qualify you for the early bird discount.
Special rate for interns - $80 off full price. (Use coupon code INTERN 20)
Once you have registered for the workshop, please fill out and sign our Ethics and Scope of Practice form. Click the link, then download the form, fill it out and sign it, and return it to us by email.
If you have questions about this online course, please contact Sheila Rubin at
415-820-3974 or Sheila@HealingShame.com.
For assistance with registration and with R. Cassidy Seminars, please contact Elizabeth at EDHealingShame@gmail.com.
NOTE: For participants applying for CE credits through R. Cassidy Seminars, CE credits are available for live participation only. In order to receive CE credits for this workshop, you must participate live on all calls, due to the stipulations guiding continuing education credit for online courses. Unfortunately, credit is not available for partial attendance (i.e., attending some classes live and listening to others via the recording), or for those who are only participating via the recordings. For more information, please contact Sheila Rubin at 415-820-3974 or Sheila@HealingShame.com.
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This is a workshop for therapists and other helping professionals, taught by Sheila Rubin, LMFT, RDT/BCT and Bret Lyon, PhD, SEP.
Bret Lyon and Sheila Rubin have co-led workshops on Healing Shame for over a decade in many cities in the U.S. and Canada, including Berkeley, New York, Montreal, Ottawa and Victoria, BC. Both have trained in EFT with Sue Johnson and in AEDP with Diana Fosha.
* The Center for Healing Shame is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for MFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs in California - CAMFT Approved CE Provider #134393. PhDs in California and PhDs and licensed therapists outside California may be able to receive CE credits through the co-sponsorship of R. Cassidy Seminars. (Apply for CE credits from R. Cassidy Seminars prior to the workshop at www.ceuregistration.com.)
The Center for Healing Shame maintains responsibility for this program/course and its content.
CANCELLATION POLICY: No refunds. The amount paid can be applied toward a future workshop within 12 months. Registrations are not transferable.
The Center for Healing Shame welcomes people who have disabilities. Please contact us to discuss your specific needs. Location is wheelchair accessible.