Advanced 2: ShameShifting–
Transforming Toxic Shame Into Healthy Shame 

How do we learn from and modify our words and behaviors without going into the toxic freeze state of shame? Even when we have been shamed or abused, how do we take responsibility for the part of what happened that is ours, even if it is quite small, and learn from it?

In this advanced workshop, you will learn to help yourselves and your clients shift the shame, transforming it from toxic freeze to helpful change agent.We will cover the shame produced in many situations in which we feel we have let someone down or broken some important rules, including affairs. 

This workshop will cover the following subject areas:

  • The difference between healthy shame and toxic shame.

  • How to have precision regarding where in the client’s timeline the shame intervention needs to be done.

  • How to help clients unpack toxic shame—somatically, psychologically, emotionally—and move forward.

  • How to get a client from a frozen state into a state of resilience, openness and creativity.

  • How what we often see as the worst things can be transformed into a new story about our life.

Learning Objectives

Participants will be able to:

  • Describe 5 qualities of healthy shame.

  • List 6 ways to resource the client.

  • Explain how to expand the client’s limited thinking.

  • Plan ways to talk back to the shame voice and transform it from judge to coach.

  • Utilize the primary emotion of curiosity to counter shame.

  • Apply strategies to help client reassess what happened and see it differently.

  • Assess 3 ways to gently confront a client in denial.

  • Create strategies to help clients forgive themselves.

  • Compare what can be changed to what can’t be changed.

Course Level: Advanced

PREREQUISITE: This workshop is only open to advanced students who have taken at least two workshops with us, or by special permission.  If you have taken two or more workshops with us, this is your next step in increasing your competence in working with shame. It is also a final step on the path to certification.

CE credits are available only for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs in California – CAMFT Approved CE Provider #134393

This workshop is offered in the following formats:

  • Live, interactive workshop on Zoom in 4 -day format

For a basic course agenda, click here. (Those registering will receive a full course agenda prior to the workshop.)

The Center for Healing Shame is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs in California – CAMFT-approved CE provider #134393. Courses meet the qualifications for 13 hours of continuing education credit for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences. 

The Center for Healing Shame maintains responsibility for this program/course and its content.

WORKSHOP CANCELLATION POLICY

We do not offer refunds. The amount paid can be applied toward a future workshop within 12 months. Registrations are not transferable.

ACCOMMODATIONS FOR THE DIFFERENTLY ABLED

The Center for Healing Shame welcomes people who have disabilities. Our training location is wheelchair accessible. Please contact us to discuss your specific needs.

GRIEVANCE POLICY

The Center for Healing Shame seeks to ensure equitable treatment of every person and to make every attempt to resolve grievances in a fair manner.

If you have a grievance, please include your name and contact information and submit it in writing to Sheila Rubin (sheila@healingshame.com).

Grievances will receive, to the best of our ability, corrective action in order to prevent further problems.

Top photo by Bret Lyon