Healing Shame in Men:
A Guide for Therapists and Other Helping Professionals

We have found that many therapists, female and male, have trouble spotting, understanding, and working with male shame.

While no one has an easy time with shame, and many societies don’t really want to acknowledge it, for many men it can be especially hard. Men often don't even realize that they feel shame. They may suddenly find themselves shouting or blaming someone else, or pulling away and stonewalling, without having access to the underlying shame. They may find themselves depressed and isolated, without really knowing why.

The action tendency of shame is to freeze, hide, vanish, disappear. Men are often socialized to take action and “deal.” Shame makes this very hard to do. The solution many men find to shame is to not feel or acknowledge it—to react against it without being aware of the underlying cause of their actions.

This workshop will help you discover and address the invisible shame in many men. You will learn how to countershame them and invite them to join you rather than fight you when shame is activated in the session. We offer tools and languaging that will move men into curiosity about the shame underlying thoughts and behaviors. When we get them onboard with recognizing and accepting that they have shame, as everyone does, we can help them take steps to explore and heal.


Learning Objectives

Participants will be able to:

Course Level: Beginning

There is no prerequisite for this course. It can be taken by itself or as part of a sequence.

CE credits are available only for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs in California – CAMFT Approved CE Provider #134393

This workshop is offered in the following formats:

  • Live, interactive workshop on Zoom in 4-day format

For a basic course agenda, click here. (Those registering will receive a full course agenda prior to the workshop.)

The Center for Healing Shame is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs in California – CAMFT-approved CE provider #134393. Courses meet the qualifications for 13 hours of continuing education credit for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences. 

The Center for Healing Shame maintains responsibility for this program/course and its content.

WORKSHOP CANCELLATION POLICY

We do not offer refunds. The amount paid can be applied toward a future workshop within 12 months. Registrations are not transferable.

ACCOMMODATIONS FOR THE DIFFERENTLY ABLED

The Center for Healing Shame welcomes people who have disabilities. Our training location is wheelchair accessible. Please contact us to discuss your specific needs.

GRIEVANCE POLICY

The Center for Healing Shame seeks to ensure equitable treatment of every person and to make every attempt to resolve grievances in a fair manner.

If you have a grievance, please include your name and contact information and submit it in writing to Sheila Rubin (sheila@healingshame.com).

Grievances will receive, to the best of our ability, corrective action in order to prevent further problems.

Top photo by Bret Lyon