“We are wired to care and we’re taught to be neutral.”
–Diana Fosha
In many studies of the effectiveness of therapy, a strong connection between therapist and client has been noted as the clearest predictor of success. And yet our own shame and fear of doing the wrong thing can get in the way of that connection. We can be overly susceptible to messages telling us to be "neutral” and “professional.” We can find ourselves holding back our warmth, generosity, and enthusiasm.
In this workshop you will discover powerful tools to connect with a client quickly and deeply. We will provide demonstrations to help you decide when to hold back and when to bring yourself forward, both emotionally and physically. Because shame can produce a state of freeze, we may need to be even more active and kind in order to counter it. You will learn ways to convey to the client “I’m right there with you”—in a dance in which you alternate between follower and leader. This dance, in which the self of the therapist reaches for the self of the client, can transform toxic shame into healthy shame. Being “right there” in a supportive way with the client is especially important in working with shame, which can turn a person’s gaze inward and make them feel lacking and inferior when the inner critic seems to suddenly take over. The workshop will examine ways to utilize therapist counter-transference and level the playing field that shame distorts—and combine the seemingly contradictory roles of caring friend and trusted expert.
Clients with all-pervasive shame may not know why their life isn’t moving forward or why their relationships or jobs don’t seem to work out. They may come to the conclusion that it's simply because there’s something wrong with them. Shame provides a simple, powerful, coherent narrative. As therapists, we can provide both psychoeducation and a counter-shaming experience of relationship that can change the narrative. We are inviting the client to a dual consciousness in which they can be with shame and trauma from the past in a structured way with our support. In this workshop, we teach a model of how to connect with great care and kindness. This can begin to heal a lifetime of shame and trauma from neglect and abuse. We model how to restore the bridge that was broken by shame and provide gentle guidance back to the true self.
Taught by Bret Lyon and Sheila Rubin
Course Level: Beginning
There is no prerequisite for this course.
2 Saturdays: September 23 & 30, 2023
10am–6:00 pm Pacific Time
ONLINE
Live and recorded, using the Zoom platform.
13 CE credits (See CE information below.)
CAMFT Approved CE Provider #134393
This course is for therapists and helping professionals. If you're not sure if it's the right class for you, please contact Bret Lyon at Bret@HealingShame.com. This workshop can be applied toward certification as a Healing Shame Practitioner.
Pricing and Registration
$395 full price
$375 with early bird discount, paid in full by August 18 (Use coupon code EARLYBIRD)
Special rate for interns - $70 off full price (Use coupon code INTERN)
$40 fee for CE credits
If you would like CE credit for this workshop, please pay for them now, at the same time you register for the workshop. Payment for CE credits is separate from your registration payment.
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We offer two payment options for registration:
1. If you want the early bird pricing, pay $375 by the early bird deadline. (Sorry, no deposits for early bird pricing.)
2. Pay the full amount of $395 or a $100 deposit to hold your space in the class. Upon registration, you will receive an email confirmation that includes a link to pay any balance due. Please note that we do not send a balance due bill, so it will be your responsibility to remember to pay. Any balance due must be paid in full at least 4 days before the class.
**If registering within one week of the class, you must pay the full amount; deposits will not be accepted.**
Please note: In registering for this workshop, you are agreeing to the terms of our Ethics and Scope of Practice Agreement.
CE Credit
The Center for Healing Shame is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs in California – CAMFT-approved CE provider #134393. Courses meet the qualifications for hours of continuing education credit for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences.
At this time, we are only able to provide CE credit to LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs in California and RDTs in the US. We are not able to offer CE credit to psychologists or nurses in California or to psychologists, therapists, or nurses licensed outside of California in the U.S. and Canada.
For complete information about CE credit, Hours of Attendance certificates, and course credit, please visit our information page.
The Center for Healing Shame maintains responsibility for this program/course and its content.
Guarantee Your Spot:
This is a workshop for therapists and other helping professionals, taught by Sheila Rubin, LMFT, RDT/BCT and Bret Lyon PhD, SEP.
Bret Lyon and Sheila Rubin have co-led workshops on Healing Shame for over a decade in many cities in the U.S. and Canada, including Berkeley, New York, Montreal, Ottawa, Victoria, BC. Both have trained in EFT with Sue Johnson and in AEDP Diana Fosha. For more information, please visit our page About Us.
WORKSHOP CANCELLATION POLICY
We do not offer refunds. The amount paid can be applied toward a future workshop within 12 months. Registrations are not transferable.
ACCOMMODATIONS FOR THE DIFFERENTLY ABLED
The Center for Healing Shame welcomes people who have disabilities. Our training location is wheelchair accessible. Please contact us to discuss your specific needs.
GRIEVANCE POLICY
The Center for Healing Shame seeks to ensure equitable treatment of every person and to make every attempt to resolve grievances in a fair manner.
If you have a grievance, please include your name and contact information and submit it in writing to Sheila Rubin (sheila@healingshame.com).
Grievances will receive, to the best of our ability, corrective action in order to prevent further problems.
Top photo by Bret Lyon